I think your question is based on a perception that isn't shared by all.
Yes, airplanes can be very large, and numerically quite heavy when loaded at max gross, but appearances can be deceiving and they are actually fairly light for their size. They are mostly hollow, and designed to be as light as possible... because they need to fly after all! Consider that they are made of thin (compared to overall size) aluminum, and that much of the overall size you perceive is in the volume of the fuselage, which contains a lot of air.
Realize too that the visual appearance of size doesn't always match well with actual density or mass. Mentally scaling up other more familiar wheeled vehicles or die cast airplane models may create a subconscious illusion that airplanes are much more massive than they actually are.
I don't have the engineering chops to math it out for you, (if you are looking for strength calculations) I can only say that my perception has never been that the tires are too small.
Is there a certain mechanic that prevents the collapse of landing gear and bursting of the tires?
Yes, a team of design engineers will spend years making sure the gear is strong enough.